Sink full of dishes. Dirty floor. Stacks of papers. A slight discoloration on an object. A rhythmic noise from the ventilation or ceiling fan. A client recently asked me to help them deal with all the little things that go unfinished and become bigger messes. How do I follow through on the little things? We […]
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Apologies are an invaluable treatment tool. Sure, the experience of being held accountable and needing to apologize can be painful. Once you learn to appreciate their value to your development, however, apologies provide an opportunity to reflect, empathize, and plan for change. Ever heard of “failing forward?” A good apology is the key to tapping
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This is part three of our Following Through series. The first two parts covered three major obstacles that prevent us from doing what we say: overcommitment, forgetfulness and distraction. In the final part, we’ll introduce a few more obstacles and wrap things up with a miraculous technique for actually doing what you say. Procrastination Procrastination
This is part two of our Following Through series. In part one, we talked about overcommitment as a major obstacle to following through. Many of us are vulnerable to feelings of fear, guilt, and obligation that prime us for wanting to please others reflexively by volunteering for their projects while neglecting our own. In part
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This is part one of our Following Through series. Do what you say! If you want to accomplish your life goals and build strong relationships, it’s really that simple. Following through on what we say builds trust with other people and raises our self-esteem. We need to reduce how often we commit to something and
For many of us, external expectations are most intense and numerous in the workplace. Demands are rigid and consequences can be serious. This can lead to stress, anxiety, and dread; particularly for high-stakes situations like performance reviews, client negotiations, and other meetings. All of these situations require us to bring our A-game, even when anxiety
